PREVIEW OF THIRD

BOOK, TITLED "HOW TO CURE MALE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE PROBLEMS"

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CHAPTER 11: HOW TO AVOID GETTING A MALE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE PROBLEM:

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It is a simple fact of life that every living creature will die. Most human beings will die from heart disease, cancer, a stroke, or some other disease (a few by accidents, a few by “old age” which in reality is often a disease not specifically blamed). Disease is a basic fact of life. During the course of a lifetime, an overwhelming percentage (probably over 99.999%) of all humans will develop a disease at some point. It is unlikely that any human could live to 100 years of age and never have had a disease.

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Of course, no one ever wants to develop a disease. And no man wants to develop a sexual performance problem.

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No man wants to develop heart disease or diabetes or cancer or Alzheimers. But by and large it seems there is very little that a man can do to avoid developing one or more of these diseases as many seem to have hereditary / genetic issues. Often, 10 brothers/sisters from one family will die (in advanced ages of 70 to 90) of cancer. In other cases, a woman develops breast cancer at age 40, then sees her daughter develop breast cancer at age 40 and her daughter’s daughter develop breast cancer at age 40. There have been cases of multi-generational transmission of Marfan’s Syndrome, heart disease, breast cancer, and dozens of other diseases. In almost all cases, there was absolutely nothing that anyone could have done to avoid developing these things.

 

Most leading authorities claim that “regular, moderate exercise” will help to prevent many diseases, but there has never been one single double-blind scientific study to prove that is true. And anecdotes to the contrary destroy its credibility. Consider the case of Jim Fixx. His father had a heart attack at age 35 and died of a second heart attack at age 43. So Jim Fixx came up with a great idea: exercise (by running every day) to lose weight and add muscle tissue to reduce the risk of a heart attack. Of course, he died from a heart attack at age 52 while on his daily run. [ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jim_Fixx ]

 

Other leading authorities claim that eating a “balanced diet of healthy foods” will help to prevent many diseases, but there has never been one single double-blind scientific study to prove that is true. And anecdotes to the contrary destroy its credibility. Consider the stories of the numerous centenarians (people 100 years or older) who ate a lifetime of “unbalanced diets of unhealthy foods” [such as unlimited quantities of bacon, eggs, saturated fats, trans-fats, with virtually no fruits and virtually no vegetables], while many people who ate a lifetime of “balanced diet of healthy foods” [such as a perfect following of U.S. Department of Agriculture Food and Drug Administration’s frequent publication of things like Food Chart, Food Pyramid, etc.] were dead from heart attacks or cancer or some other disease by the age of 20 or 30 or 40.

 

Yet other leading authorities claim that “lifestyle choices” cause certain diseases and so altering those “lifestyle choices” could reduce or eliminate the risk of developing those diseases, but there has never been one single double-blind scientific study to prove that is true. And anecdotes to the contrary destroy its credibility.

It seems likely that the vast majority of people are doomed to suffer a disease that is largely caused by genetic composition. Great actress Angelina Jolie had both breasts removed early in life because she knew she had a genetic composition that predisposed her to deadly breast cancer. She didn’t wait for breast cancer to make its appearance. She understood the realities of life and confronted it head-on.

 

There have been remarkably few articles on the subject of the genetic components of male sexual performance problems. Can a father pass on to his son the “disease” of Erectile Dysfunction? Or Premature Ejaculation or Delayed Ejaculation? Almost surely, none of these three can be passed from father to son, except in those incredibly rare – 1 in 100,000,000 – cases of organic pathology. For instance, Low-T may have the following genetic causes:

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1. Klinefelter Syndrome (genetic).

2. Kallmann syndrome (genetic).

3. Prader-Willi Syndrome (genetic).

4. Myotonic dystrophy (genetic).

5. Hemochromatosis (genetic; the body stores too much iron).

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But clearly the overwhelming majority of cases – nearly all cases – of male sexual performance problems develop within the lifetime of the man and are not the result of genetic issues. Because of this, it is virtually 100% possible to avoid developing male sexual performance problems through good lifestyle choices.

Let’s say that another way: over 99% of male sexual performance problems are caused either by environmental factors or lifestyle choices. And because of that, they can usually be avoided by a man determined to avoid them.

 

A corollary to that statement is this one: over 96% of male sexual performance problems can be successfully treated, often completely cured, by a man determined to find a successful treatment or cure.

 

How To Avoid Getting a Male Sexual Performance Problem:

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Man issues are bad issues. Men should try to avoid developing man issues. It seems likely that about 90% of all man issues can be prevented and about 96% can be successfully treated.

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The best ways to avoid developing man issues are these:

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List of all things to do to avoid developing male sexual performance problems:

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1. Avoid prescription drugs.

2. Avoid non-prescription drugs, recreational drugs, illegal drugs, steroids.

3. Avoid alcohol.

4. Avoid smoking.

5. Lose weight (if you are overweight).

6. Exercise and stay active.

7. Practice Kegel Maneuvers.

8. Ejaculate daily.

9. Get tested regularly for HPV, HSV-1, Chlamydia.

10. Look for symptoms of male sexual performance problems– especially symptoms of Low T.

11. Avoid fatigue, exhaustion, overworking.

12. Treat psychological issues of stress, anxiety, depression, anger.

13. Treat other psychological issues.

14. Work on relationship issues. Keep your relationship with your sex partner healthy.

15. Focus on your sexual health.

16. Avoid injuries. Avoid taking unnecessary physical risks.

17. Practice good masturbatory behavior.

18. Get circumcised if not you are not already.

19. If you have a physical injury, consult physical therapists.

20. If you have a medical condition, do everything you can to overcome it.

21. Devise a strategy with your wife on how to maintain good sexual health.

22. Urinate while sitting down instead of standing up.

23. Empty your bladder completely every time you urinate.

24. Have a prostate massage weekly.

25. Do not shave your pubic areas.

26. Keep an eye open for symptoms of Low-Testosterone:

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Making Good Lifestyle Choices:

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Of course everyone knows that getting stone drunk has a negative effect on sexual performance! That certainly is not a secret to alcoholics. The same is true of people who use illegal drugs. Overworking and becoming brutally exhausted has the same negative effect on sexual performance. Just about every man knows of something that can negatively affect his sexual performance.

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Since we know most of the things that diminish or eliminate our ability to sexually perform well, we can avoid those things if don’t want to lose such ability! Simply put, a man simply has to ask this question: would I rather keep up a bad lifestyle choice knowing that it is likely to cause me to have sexual performance issues or would I rather give up the bad lifestyle choice so that I don’t risk losing my ability to sexually perform well? Sounds like a simple decision, but it is not one that is easy to understand nor is it one that is easy to make in a knowing, intelligent way.

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Avoid Prescription Drugs:

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The number 1 cause of male sexual performance problems seems to be prescription drugs. The overwhelming majority of these can be safely avoided. Let’s look at this issue carefully.

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The main side effect of many modern medications is erectile dysfunction. But other side effects, such as cancer, Low-T, and a few others, come along for the ride. In short, many modern medications destroy male sexual performance.

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In 2004, the pharmaceutical industry came up with a game plan for increasing profits twenty-fold. The game plan was simple: alter the definitions of major diseases such as hypertension, diabetes, and high cholesterol in such a way that 60% of all human beings would be considered to be in need of pharmaceutical drugs for such diseases. About 6 months later the Secretary of Human Services adopted their new definitions and the game was on – some 60% of all Americans now “needed” anti-hypertension drugs; some 60% of all Americans now “needed” anti-diabetes drugs; some 60% of all Americans now “needed” anti-high-cholesterol drugs; some 60% of all Americans now “needed” to be on this drug, that drug, the other drug. The result was quick: soon, over 60% of all Americans were on one drug or another, over 50% of all Americans were on two drugs, and over 40% of all Americans were on 3 or more drugs!!

 

Common sense yielded to big pharma profits. No one in a position of authority to regulate big pharmaceutical companies used a lick of common sense to rein in these wild excesses. Indeed, those responsible for regulating big pharmaceutical companies often were former and future big pharmaceutical companies executives! For a few years they were worked for a big pharmaceutical company, then they joined the government agency responsible to regulate that big pharmaceutical company and stayed they a few years, then they went back to work for the big pharmaceutical company again. Back and forth, back and forth. The regulated became the regulators became the regulated became the regulators.

 

Stop and think for a few minutes about the history of mankind. Mankind lived quite nicely without a single drug for hundreds of thousands of years. Yes, antibiotics would have saved a lot of lives and certain drugs would have saved more lives. But in the early 1900s until the 1980s no human being ever “needed” an anti-cholesterol drug to live. To this very day, not one study has ever demonstrated that all the billions of dollars spent on anti-cholesterol drugs have prevented one single heart attack!!! They don’t do that. That has always been well-known. No one in big pharma believes that they do. They know better.

 

Think about most human diseases. How prevalent are they? Most diseases affect less than 4% of all humans. Chart disease after disease using bell curves and what do we see? We see that about 4% of humans truly “need” a drug. When cholesterol is above 11,000 then it is a problem. Even 5,000 is a problem. But the difference between 200 and 300 and 400 and 500 is not relevant to being a predictor of a heart attack. Yet more than 96% of all Americans have cholesterol less than 500, yet over 60% of all Americans are told they “need” to be on anti-cholesterol drugs. That “need” comes from one source: the “need” for the pharmaceutical company to increase its profit margins twenty-fold!

 

Government regulators should define all diseases in terms of the 4% delineations. People with the highest 4% of cholesterol levels should be given anti-cholesterol drugs, but the other 96% should not be. The same should be the government rule for all conditions.

 

Prior to the 1980s wild, rapid expansion of prescription drugs, about 4% of all men had a man issue. Fast forward to the 2010s. Increase prescription drugs in men from about 4% of the population to about 60% of the population and what happens? The incidence of man issues increases from about 4% to about 20% due to side effects of these prescription drugs. And what percentage of men actually “needed” to be on these prescription drugs? Not 60%. Only about 4%. The same 4% that was on them in the 1980s.

 

If you are a man who now has a man issue as a direct and proximate result of taking a prescription drug, do you think these things: 1. Do I truly need to be on this prescription drug – that is, am I in the top 4% of people with this condition? 2. Is developing a man issue worth the supposed benefit – often negligible – of taking the prescription drug that is causing the man issue?

 

Are you taking prescription drugs. Suggestion: If you are taking prescription drugs, make a careful analysis of those drugs. Are they really necessary? Think of a simple bell curve with a hockey stick. If you are in that 4% hockey stick area, then you should perhaps be on that drug. Otherwise you should not be. Consider cholesterol: if your cholesterol is 200, 300, 400, 500, you probably don’t need to be on a cholesterol-reducing drug. Over 500 you probably should consider being on one.  For blood pressure, anything under 160 top number or 100 bottom number you probably don’t need to be on a high-pressure pill. Over 160 / 100 you probably should consider being on one. These are just thoughts of course.

 

Do you really want to lose the use of your penis just to make a drug company rich? Seems like a stupid, rhetorical question, right?

 

Avoid Non-Prescription Drugs, Recreational Drugs, Illegal Drugs, Steroids:

 

Our human bodies are complex organisms with a extremely complex design structure. Mankind does not know all the secrets of the human bodies. And thus it is that things like non-prescription drugs, recreational drugs, illegal drugs, steroids, and performance-enhancing drugs cause side effects for reasons that are not fully understood. But we do know that many of these substances can cause male sexual performance problems!

 

The list of such substances seems to grow every year: amphetamines, benzodiazepines, depressants, hallucinogens, inhalants, metabolites, narcotics, opioids, pain relievers,  sedatives, stimulants, tranquilizers, steroids, anabolic steroids, body-building substances, muscle-building substances, bath salts, cocaine, codeine, crack, Ecstasy, Fentanyl, heroin, hydrocodone, Ketamine, Kratom, LSD, Marijuana, Methamphetamine, Molly, Morphine, OxyContin (oxycodone), PCP, Peyote, Speed, Spice, synthetic marijuana, Vicodin (and that is the very, very short list).

 

Who would rather consume these substances and lose the use of their penis than stay away from drugs and have the use of their penis? Seems like another stupid, rhetorical question, right? But pose that question to those who take these substances and watch their answers! You would be shocked at how many men would apparently swap their ability to perform sexually for the earthly pleasures these substances apparently provide. For the rest of us: hell no!

 

Avoid Alcohol:

 

It isn’t a lot of fun to get smashed up drunk and try unsuccessfully to have sex. You probably don’t get too much sex as it is, so why waste sex opportunities just to get smashed up drunk? And long-term use of alcohol is even worse: would you rather become an alcoholic and lose the use of your penis, or give up alcohol and keep the use of your penis? Seems like yet another stupid, rhetorical question, right? Yet consider how many men know they cannot perform well when intoxicated and ask them why they got intoxicated knowing this! Would you like some TheChive articles on the stupidity of drinking alcohol? See Appendix 6, titled, “The Stupid Results Of Drinking Alcohol”.

 

The other problem with alcohol is that many women don’t find drunk men to be sexually attractive. If you want sex, stay on top of your game – avoid alcohol!

 

Avoid Smoking:

 

Every man who smokes loses some lung capacity to put oxygen in his blood. All tobacco products diminish blood flood and thus oxygen. That means even less oxygen going to his penis – not just when he is smoking, but basically every second of every day. When his penis is flaccid, it is even more starved for oxygen. And so when the time for an erection arrives, his penis lets him down. This is because the arteries of his penis clogged with cholesterol when his penis was flaccid and thus his penis received less oxygen supply than it needed for an erection. Smoking may look cool, but not being able to produce an erection does not look cool to a woman waiting for it!

 

Lose Weight (If You Are Overweight):

 

Gaining too much weight. The problem with weight gain is that the new fat requires blood supply and oxygen, thus taking oxygen away from the penis to supply the fat. More cholesterol deposits, less ability to create erections. Let’s consider a new saying: “Feed the fat, starve the penis” or better yet: “Feed the penis, starve the fat”. Sounds as good as “Feed a fever, starve a cold”, maybe even better.

 

Of course, the other problem with gaining too much weight is that women don’t like a man with too much fat. So it is harder to get sex when you have too much fat.

 

You don’t need to be thin. You don’t even need to be within BMI guidelines. But try not to be substantially “fat”.

 

Exercise And Stay Active:

 

Exercise gets more oxygen flowing throughout the entire body, including the penis. This means more blood flowing to the penis which means more oxygen supply to the penis. And even more important is that the penis is usually flaccid during exercise, so it is getting more oxygen just at the time when it needs it the most (when it is flaccid).

 

Another benefit: many women find a fit, buff man to be sexually attractive. Look at the top Hollywood stars and look at their bodies for examples.

 

Practice Kegel Maneuvers:

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Kegel maneuvers work. They tighten pelvic floor muscles. They give a man much better control over his penis and also gives a man better orgasms – more easily obtained, more intense, longer lasting. They can eliminate Premature Ejaculation. The Kegel Maneuvers, properly practiced and executed, can even  lead to results that are nearly miraculous: multiple orgasms for men and shortened recovery time between orgasms.

 

 

Ejaculate Daily:

 

A man should have 1 or 2 erections a day, about 10 minutes each, whether by sex with another person or through masturbation. This will keep the oxygen supply to the penis adequate and prevent cholesterol from clogging the arteries of the penis needed for proper blood flow to create erections.

 

The irony of use it or lose it is too great: a man who almost never gets sex will not be able to create an erection when the opportunity for sex finally arrives! The human body should have been designed in such a way that a man who almost never gets sex will easily be able to create an erection when the opportunity for sex finally arrives, not the other-way around.

 

But even better than having 1 or 2 erections a day is having 1 or 2 ejaculations a day. It will reduce the risk of developing Prostate Cancer. It will keep all the working parts in good working order and it will get rid of semen and sperm before they go stale and keep them fresh! The leading study found “that the risk of prostate cancer may be reduced for men who ejaculate 21 times or more per month. This was compared with men who only ejaculated 4-7 times a month.”

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Get Tested Regularly For HPV, HSV-1, Chlamydia:

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The leading cause of penile cancer is HPV, so get tested for HPV once a year. While you’re there, also get test once a year for PSA (tests for cancer of the prostate), HSV-1 (Herpes Simplex Virus – 1), and Chlamydia. Did you know that over 50% of all men have genital HPV? Did you know that over 80% of all men and women have HPV on their bodies, and that HPV can be transmitted by any skin to skin contact – shaking hands, exchanging hive fives, kissing, etc.

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Perhaps the most terrifying two word combination in our language: penile cancer. No one wants that!

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No one even wants cancer of the throat. But that is what Michael Douglas, the famous actor, developed. Apparently from HPV.

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Look For Symptoms Of Male Sexual Performance Problems – Especially Symptoms Of Low Testosterone:

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Be aware of what is going on with your body. Often symptoms start to appear from out of nowhere for no apparent reason. They just creep up on us. We aren’t aware of them at all when they first appear, and often it takes us a long time to figure out that something is wrong.

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Any change is suspicious. Any pain is suspicious. You know your body better than anyone else so you need to be on top of things. After you, your wife knows your body better than anyone else. If she notices any chances, she is probably right and you need to look into it. 

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Take urination for instance. Are you going to the bathroom more often at night after bedtime? If so, both you and likely your wife will be aware of that issue, and it may be the start of BPH. Blood in the urine, hesitancy in urination, painful urination, slow urination are other signs.

 

Take semen for instance. Are you consistently producing the same amount, the same color, same odor, same taste? Any change in semen is cause for concern.

 

Take hair loss for instance. The hair of many men starts to thin out as men age. Does that mean Low Testosterone? Not necessarily. If you develop a Low Testosterone issue, address it! Low Testosterone can cause some of a man’s worst nightmares: reduced sex drive, his penis shrinks, his testicles shrink to half size and become squishy, fewer erections, increased body fat especially the belly, his muscles shrink, and many more. Here are some symptoms of Low Testosterone to watch for.

 

1. Reduced libido, or sex drive. The man wants sex less often, he masturbates less often, he has fewer fantasies and he has fewer sex dreams.

2. The penis shrinks – it becomes shorter, loses girth.

3. The testicles shrink – they can become half their usual size – and they become squishy instead of remaining firm.

4. Fewer erections, especially night-time boners. When men with Low-T sleep, they have less night-time erections (boners) than they should.

5. Diminished sperm production (infertility).

6. Erectile dysfunction. Not a common symptom, but sometimes. Usually this is a result of having less night-time boners and less day-time boners. Boners are important as the penis when flaccid does not receive enough blood supply to provide adequate oxygen to the penis’ muscle cells, thereby allowing cholesterol to aggregate and clog arteries, making erections difficult to achieve.

7. Increased body fat, especially the stomach area. A basic dad bod nightmare: the penis shrinks, the testicles shrink, the belly mushrooms.

8. Decreased strength/mass of muscles. Yes, the muscles shrink.

9. Fragile bones.

10. Decreased amounts of body hair.

11. Swelling/tenderness in the breast tissue / enlarged breast tissues.

12. Increased fatigue.

13. Effects on cholesterol metabolism.

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15. Depression, irritability.

16. Loss of memory, inability to concentrate and loss of focus.

 

Avoid Fatigue, Exhaustion, Overworking:

 

In today’s modern world many of us tend to overwork and to be extremely busy in all facets of life. We often don’t get enough sleep. That is a big mistake. Fatigue, exhaustion, and overworking cause male sexual performance problems. We all need to get enough sleep. Sleep is one of the most important physiological needs we all have. Many studies are coming out on the importance of sleep. As noted above, we literally will die if we do not get any sleep for a long period of time (about 11 days). Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture by the Israeli Army and the U.S. Army.

 

When we sleep, our bodies heal things that need to be healed. When we don’t get enough sleep, our bodies cannot fully heal things that need to be healed.

 

Sleep is so important that there is even a “National Sleep Foundation” and it has a website: https://sleepfoundation.org Here is the introductory line: “Healthy sleep habits can make a big difference in your quality of life. Having healthy sleep habits is often referred to as having good sleep hygiene.” https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-tools-tips/healthy-sleep-tips

 

Are the things that we are doing instead of sleeping worth the troubles our bodies develop as a result of sleep deprivation? In the long run, the real question may be this: if we are so busy that we don’t get enough sleep and that that diminishes our sexual performance, are those things that are keeping us too busy really worth it? Are they worth giving up our good sexual performance to do?

You need a balance between your work life and your personal life, and your personal life includes your sex life. Here is an article that has some suggestions in Appendix 10, titled “Balancing Between Work Life and Family Life”.

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Treat Psychological Issues Of Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Anger:

 

Anxiety, stress, and depression were once believed by the medical profession to be the cause of about 99.99% of all male sexual performance problems. In reality, these three things probably cause only about 0.1 to 0.5% of all male sexual performance problems. These things are hardly worth worrying about. Certainly these should rarely be the focus of curative attention. Life has anxiety, stress, and sometimes depression. There is little we can do to eliminate them.

 

But we might be able to reduce them with some simple life-style changes. Even things like yoga and meditation might help.

 

Treat Other Psychological Issues:

 

There are many other psychological issues that cause male sexual performance problems. Try to deal with these issues in your life if they arise. These include:

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Feelings of inadequacy; low self-esteem; low self-confidence.

Issues with body image

Feelings of guilt or shame.

Fear of intimacy.

Fear of semen, fear of female genitalia, fear of hurting or defiling his partner.

Fear of making his partner pregnant.

Issues of performance anxiety.

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Work On Relationship Issues. Keep Your Relationship With Your Sex Partner Healthy:

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One of the most important human relationships you will ever have in your lifetime is your relationship with your sex partner. So it is important to keep that relationship in a “good” status. Keep it healthy, loving.

 

Sometimes a man’s sexual performance problem comes from a relationship problem. Often the problem comes down to having the wrong sex partner! A man who is not emotionally attracted to his sex partner may develop male sexual performance problems – ranging from erectile dysfunction (penis does not want to get erect for this), premature ejaculation (penis wants this over with immediately), delayed ejaculation (penis does not want to ejaculate for this), and perhaps a few others.

 

Relationship issues of stress, poor communication, etc., must be dealt with. But the more severe relationship issues may require more drastic actions, such as termination of the relationship. Sometimes the only “cure” for a man’s sexual performance problem is to find a new sex partner!

 

Focus On Your Sexual Health.

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Many men tend to ignore their physical health. They just let it slide. They gain too much weight, they don’t get the medical check-ups they should get, they don’t get the dental check-ups they should get, etc.

 

The same may be true of their sexual health. They just let it slide. Little symptoms develop but the men just ignore them. It is important to develop a healthy attitude toward sex, get rid of cultural taboos, get rid of religious taboos, get rid of bad mental attitudes toward sex.

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Each man gets one body with one set of sexual organs. It is up to each man to take care of his body and his sexual organs. A man should focus on his physical health and also on his sexual health. Every man should develop a healthy attitude toward sex: fix any psychological, religious, or physical problems that might potentially interfere with sexual performance; get rid of old psychological hang-ups, cultural taboos, religious taboos, and take care of any physical problems that need fixing.

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There are several different components to good sexual health: psychological,  religious, physical. A man needs to keep a good grip on all facets of his sexual health.

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Psychological:

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Sometimes men have psychological issues that interfere with their sexual performance. Most of these were listed above. Here are some others:

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• Early upbringing, especially negative sexual upbringing, sexual abuse, difficulties bonding, traumatic experiences of sex, parental neglect.

• Strict sexual teaching and upbringing

• Cultural taboos (unwillingness to enjoy pleasure because it is selfish or bad, etc.).

• Guilty feelings that may interfere with pleasure.

 

Religious:

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Sometimes men have religious viewpoints that interfere with their sexual performance. Some religions claim (falsely) that all sexual activity is a sin and having sexual pleasure is a sin. And so these men have an unwillingness to enjoy sexual pleasure and that results in sexual performance problems.

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That information is wrong on all counts. For a look at contemporary Christian views on sex within marriage, see Appendix 5 below, titled “Modern Christian View Of Sex Within Marriage”.

 

Physical:

 

Sometimes men have physical issues that interfere with their sexual performance. These physical problems must be addressed appropriately so they do not cause sexual performance problems.

 

Avoid Injuries. Avoid Taking Unnecessary Physical Risks:

 

Men tend to be injury-prone, much more so than women. This is likely caused by the male hormone testosterone, which seems to make men aggressive, violent, risk-takers.

 

Injuries to the genitals of course can cause male sexual performance problems. But so can just about all other injuries.

 

For a look at men taking crazy risks, please see Appendix 9 below, titled “Why Women Live Longer Than Men”.

 

Practice Good Masturbatory Behavior:

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Masturbation is an important part of life. Masturbation, done properly, prevents many male sexual performance problems. Masturbation, done improperly, causes some male sexual performance problems. A man should have at least one orgasm and ejaculation every day; when a sex partner is not available, masturbation provides a good substitute. And sex partners often don’t want to share the same pornographic materials, so masturbation is a good time to catch up on pornography.

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Masturbation is good because it leads to three things: erections, orgasms, and ejaculations. Erections are good because they bring more blood to the penis which means more oxygen and less artery-clogging cholesterol. This reduces the chance of developing Erectile Dysfunction. Orgasms are good because they release pleasure hormones in our brain, reduce feelings of pain, and make us feel great. Ejaculations are good because they discharge sperm and semen and thus keep things fresh and thus reduce the risk of prostate cancer.

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Sometimes masturbation can lead to problems. Here are some examples:

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1. Masturbating too often can cause issues, such as soreness in extreme cases, erectile dysfunction when trying to have sexual intercourse with a partner not up to standards.

2. Masturbating too soon before intercourse can cause delayed ejaculation.

3. Masturbating in a way that is not matched by sexual intercourse, such as a high speed, high pressure, or high-intensity form can cause issues when having sexual intercourse, such as delayed ejaculation.

4. Masturbating in the same exact way every time. His partner's hand, mouth, and vagina will be different in feeling and texture. And it may be hard for his partner to imitate the same style he uses (up and down, round and back, a certain level of pressure and angle and grip.

5. Masturbating with pornography if the result will be that when his sex partner may not look as attractive as the actresses in the pornography it causes a problem. But in general it is a great idea to use pornography when masturbating.

 

“One proposed cause of delayed ejaculation is adaptation to a certain masturbatory technique. The sensations a man feels when masturbating may bear little resemblance to the sensations he experiences during intercourse. Factors such as pressure, angle and grip during masturbation can make for an experience so different from sex with a partner that the ability to ejaculate is reduced or eliminated.

 

“On the same note, it may be the visual factor present in masturbation that may delay vaginal ejaculation. As the sensation during masturbation is intrinsically linked with the visual input of a sexual model, be it male or female, the diminished view during sex may result in the loss of that link, and as such, delay ejaculation in the man. A possible cure for this may be a better view of the partner during intercourse.

 

“One specialist in delayed ejaculation found a relationship between the condition and the following masturbatory patterns:

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• masturbating more often, typically more than three times a week

• having a style of masturbation that cannot be matched by sexual intercourse, particularly a high speed, high pressure, or high-intensity form

• if the partner's hand, mouth, or vagina is unable to easily duplicate the learned style

• the sex partner differs from the fantasy used during masturbation to reach an orgasm

 

Get Circumcised If Not You Are Not Already:

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Not being circumcised is a risk factor for cancer of the penis. Yikes. Two other problems with not being circumcised are phimosis and smegma. Consider this language from above:

 

“The reason for the lower risk in circumcised men is not entirely clear, but it may be related to other known risk factors. For example, men who are circumcised can’t develop the condition called phimosis, and don’t accumulate material known as smegma (see next section). Men with smegma or phimosis have an increased risk of penile cancer. The later a man is circumcised, the more likely it is that one of these conditions will occur first.

 

“In weighing the risks and benefits of circumcision, doctors consider the fact that penile cancer is very uncommon in the United States, even among uncircumcised men. Although the American Academy of Pediatrics has stated that the health benefits of circumcision in newborn males outweigh the risks, it also states these benefits are not great enough to recommend that all newborns be routinely circumcised.

 

“In the end, decisions about circumcision are highly personal and often depend more on social and religious factors than on medical evidence.”

 

https://www.cancer.org/cancer/penile-cancer/causes-risks-prevention/risk-factors.html

 

If You Have A Physical Injury, Consult Physical Therapists:

 

If you have a physical injury, consult physical therapists. Keep your body in top health if you want your sex life to stay in top health. Men like to “suck it up” and not take care of injuries. Don’t do that. You get 1 body, 1 set of sex organs. Take care of your body and your sex organs!

 

If You Have A Medical Condition, Do Everything You Can To Overcome It:

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If you have a medical condition, do everything you can to overcome it. Keep your body in top medical condition if you want your sex life to stay in top condition. Men like to bury their heads in the sand and pretend they don’t have any symptoms of any medical illness, then let the symptoms worsen, multiply, and get totally out of control. Don’t do that. The best time to beat any medical condition is when it first develops. Waiting until it worsens is not a good strategy. It becomes harder and harder to treat.   

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Devise A Strategy With Your Wife On How To Maintain Good Sexual Health:

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Your wife is your forever partner in everything. That certainly includes your sex life, which means also your sex health. So of course she should be your partner in devising a strategy on how to maintain good sexual health. Part of that discussion should include the frequency of sexual intercourse (with once a day being a good idea), prostate massages (with once a week being a good idea), watching for sexual performance problem symptoms, suggestions on how to keep sex great for both of you, discussions on masturbation, discussions on pornography, and in general complete open and honest discussions on everything that is part of your sex life. You should be able to talk to her just as if you were talking to yourself in the shower.

 

Urinate While Sitting Down Instead Of Standing Up:

 

Most men like to urinate while standing up. That’s cool, but it does potentially have an adverse impact on your urinary functions. That is because a man’s urethral tube passes though his prostate. When a man urinates standing up, the angle is such that urination provides a minor irritation to the prostate. Over time, that might be enough to lead to prostate enlargement, or BPH. When a man urinates sitting down, the angle is such that urination does not provide a minor irritation to the prostate. Also, if prostate enlargement, or BPH, does develop, you should definitely urinate while sitting down to help alleviate the symptoms.

 

There may be a secondary benefit to sitting down while urinating: the seat will be down – just as your wife wants it to be. But in real life, no one should ever flush a toilet until the top cover is closed. And the top cover should remain in the closed position until someone needs to use the toilet. The reason is to avoid “toilet plume” – the discharge of germs, bacteria, viruses, e-coli and other harmful materials into the bathroom’s atmosphere, where it lands on things like toothbrushes, drinking cups, soap, hand-towels, drying towels, and other places where you really don’t want those things to land. For a full explanation of why the toilet cover should always be closed before closing, please see Appendix 31, titled “Close The Toilet Cover Before Flushing”.

 

Empty Your Bladder Completely Every Time You Urinate:

 

As men get older, they tend to develop an odd thing: when they urinate, they do not completely empty their bladder even though they think they do. A few minutes later men realize they feel like they could urinate again, and again that is the case. In short, when an older man urinates, he needs to urinate twice, sometimes three times, usually within 1 to 5 minutes. This is important to avoid bladder infections, urinary tract infections, kidney infections, etc. Urine left in a bladder goes bad and needs to get out. The sperm in the testicles, the semen in the prostate, and the other materials in the other parts of male genitalia are much the same – it is best to empty them out of the system every day and replace with fresh supplies so nothing has time to go bad and cause medical problems.

 

Here is the article about the dangers of not completely emptying the bladder each time:

“Other serious problems can also develop over time, including bladder stones, blood in the urine, incontinence, and acute urinary retention (an inability to urinate). A sudden and complete inability to urinate is a medical emergency; you should see your doctor immediately. In rare cases, bladder and/or kidney damage can develop from BPH.”

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https://www.webmd.com/men/prostate-enlargement-bph/features/enlarged-prostate-bph-complex-problem#1

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Have A Prostate Massage Weekly:

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The male prostate tends to receive little to no attention during a man’s lifetime. This is a mistake. The prostate needs attention in the form of a gentle touch. And the prostate rewards the man for those touches by giving him the most powerful orgasms he has ever had.

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A prostate massage can help to prevent the development of prostate problems, like BPH and Cancer. Other times, men simply enjoy the feeling of a prostate massage. As men age they tend to get bored with the same forms of sexual pleasures. They seek variety. And pornography helps them see different forms of sexual pleasures.  By the age of 50, nearly 75% of all men want to experience anal pleasure – that is, they want to be penetrated anally. Most men would prefer to be penetrated with a woman’s fingers, but toys suffice also.

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Consider this information from above in Chapter 8, titled “Prostate Issues” in the section titled “Prostate Massage”:

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“Prostate massage is the massage or stimulation of the male prostate gland for sexual stimulation or medical purposes.

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“The prostate takes part in the sexual response cycle, and is essential for the production of semen. Due to its proximity to the anterior rectal wall, it can be stimulated from the anterior wall of the rectum or externally via the perineum…

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“General

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“Prostate massage is also used for sexual stimulation, often in order to reach orgasm. The prostate is sometimes referred to as the "male G-spot". Some men can achieve orgasm solely through stimulation of the prostate gland, such as prostate massage or receptive anal intercourse, and men who report the sensation of prostate stimulation often give descriptions similar to females' accounts of G-spot stimulation. Prostate stimulation can produce stronger and more powerful orgasms than solely penile stimulation.

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“Prostate massage may also be a common sexual practice in couples' sexual lives. The advent of equipment and products for prostate massage encourages people to try it. Many couples though do not purchase such devices but use a finger for anal penetration and prostate stimulation to enhance the man's orgasm. The finger or the prostate massager is introduced into the rectum through the anus and the prostate gland is gently massaged. The main problem in using the finger is that it may be too short to reach the prostate gland. Prostate massage can be performed individually or with the help of a partner. Some men prefer being anally stimulated by their partner during foreplay or after their main form of sexual activity.

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“There are safety matters relating to prostate stimulation and anal penetration. It is strongly recommended that plenty of lubricant is used with prostate massagers to prevent rectal lining damage. A smaller instrument or finger may be introduced gradually to minimize the discomfort that some may feel. Massagers may be used with or without a condom; however, because of the bacteria found in the rectum, if a condom is not used, it is very important to clean the tool with antibacterial soap before use in another orifice or by a partner. Receiving anal stimulation may cause feelings of having to evacuate. More often than not, this is just a "feeling" that the stimulation causes and may take some getting used to.

 

“Equipment

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“A prostate massager is a device for massaging the prostate gland. The shape of a prostate massager is similar to a finger, since prostate massages are traditionally given digitally (for example, via fingering). They usually have a slightly curved head to effectively massage the prostate. Lubricant is necessary before inserting anything into the anus, so a lubricant is used. Caution should be exercised when a prostate massager is used because of the sensitivity of the prostate. Correct use involves a medium to light repetitive massage, or circular motion—the device being used to administer the massage should not thrust.

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“Prostate massage equipment ranges from dildos to butt plugs and G-spot vibrators. When used in sexual practice, prostate massagers are commonly referred to as "prostate toys", "prostate sex toys", and "anal toys". These prostate massagers are inserted into the rectum through the anus and are intended to stimulate the prostate by simple massaging or vibrating. They are used during foreplay by many couples.

 

“Prostate dildos are similar to vaginal dildos, but they tend to be more curved, slimmer and with a softer texture. Some of the new prostate dildos on the market are driven by batteries and offer vibration at the tip; the speed or intensity of which may be changed depending on the subject's personal preference. Unlike vaginal dildos, the anal prostate massager has a flared end to prevent it from being fully inserted and 'lost' inside the rectum.

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“Some men prefer butt plugs, which are easy to use, can be inserted freely and left in place while the man's hands are free for other sexual activities such as masturbation. Anal plugs also come in various shapes, sizes and designs and are not commonly intended to stimulate the prostate. Newer, more angled models (second generation) of prostate massagers have been developed to provide a more direct and thorough massage of the prostate gland. These new devices feature a more curved shape and are slightly longer than the originals. They commonly have a narrow neck and a flared end to avoid losing them in the rectum. While many massagers rely upon the body's own natural muscular contractions of the anal sphincter and anal wall to stimulate the prostate, some of the newer models come with vibrators built into them to increase sexual pleasure.

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“A G-spot vibrator can be used as a prostate massager as long as it is handled carefully and is provided with a safety base that will not allow it to be lost in the rectum. Vibrators for prostate stimulation usually have a pronounced curve at the end.”​

 

          https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate_massage

 

Do Not Shave Your Pubic Areas:

 

It has become rather standard for both women and men to shave their pubic areas. This almost surely is the result of several factors: first and foremost, pornography shows this trend very explicitly and both men and women find that it looks much more interesting when the genital areas are shaved; second, no one likes a mouthful of hair or even a single pubic hair in their mouth; third, razors and shaving equipment are substantially safer now than they have ever been before so shaving the genital areas is much easier and safer – even for testicles on men and the labia on women.

 

However, along with this trend is a problem: increased risks of all STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases). The issue is that shaving causes microscopic tears in the skin that allows STDs to more easily enter through the surface of the skin into the body. On the other hand, it is also likely that those who shave their genital areas have a much higher sex drive and more sex partners, making the risk of contracting an STD much higher.

 

Consider this language:

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“A new study by the University of California San Francisco found that people who regularly groom their pubic hair are more likely to develop an STI than those who don't.

 

“For women, the bare or well-trimmed look is more than a trend — it's the aesthetic standard. More than two out of three women (69 percent) now go completely pube-free, according a JAMA Dermatology report earlier this year. Another 13 percent do some landscaping, leaving about 16 percent who prefer a "natural" growth. Younger, college-educated women were the most likely to groom themselves.

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“The UCSF study in the journal "Sexually Transmitted Infections," surveyed grooming routines, sexual habits and STI history of 7,580 U.S. men and women aged 18-65. Sixty-six percent of the males reported regular pubic hair grooming compared to 84 percent of the females.

 

“Eighty-four percent of women trim or shave their pubic hair, according to recent surveys. A new UCSF study finds that people who groom their groin regions are more likely to get a sexually transmitted ... more

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“Extreme groomers were defined as those who removed all pubic air more than 11 times a year. High-frequency groomers trimmed daily or weekly. The extreme group was found to be 28 percent more likely to report STIs than the high-frequency group.

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“The study noted grooming is correlated to an increased number of lifetime sexual partners, which would heighten the risk of contracting an STI. For women, those to regularly groomed had twice the number of lifetime sex partners as those who didn't (9 vs. 4.4), according to the JAMA study.

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“But shaving as a preparatory activity for sex could also be a factor. Shaving can cause microtears in the skin that could facilitate transmission of bacteria or viruses like human papillomavirus (HPV), the study said.

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“UCSF researchers concluded that herpes, HPV, syphilis and molluscum (MCV lesions) were more common among groomers after adjusting for age and number of lifetime sexual partners.

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http://www.sfgate.com/science/article/Shaving-pubes-increases-STI-risk-UCSF-study-finds-10780684.php